This article will teach you about the feedback of failure.
The difference between average people and achieving people is their perception of and response to failure. ~ John C. Maxwell
Failure is something that we all have become accustomed to. There is always someone who is better, smarter, younger, richer, luckier, etc. than you.
While you could spend your whole life trying to achieve the same things as these people, you could be missing out on a valuable opportunity to reach your full potential.
You see, if you spend your life trying to measure up to someone else, your potential is limited to what someone else had already achieved.
Have you ever wondered why do successful people go on and on about failure?
Because it works.
I will elaborate on this later, but if you want to be successful in any area of your life, you must reshape your views about failure.
Let’s Get Into the Feedback of Failure
Why Should Anyone Look Forward to Failing?
Growing up, I was extremely afraid to fail. I placed my value on the accomplishments that I could bring back to my parents.
They weren’t the type to have extreme expectations either.
These beliefs were of no benefit to me, but they were ingrained in the deepest parts of my mind.
This brings me back to my original question…
Why do successful people embrace failure?
It makes no sense, right? How could someone who has clearly succeeded in life tell me anything about failure?
Failure is a phenomenal teacher… when paired with the right mindset.
Mindset is everything when it comes to life, health, success, prosperity, etc. Don’t underestimate the simple power of just believing that you can do something.
Failure can become complementary to those with a growth mindset because this mindset emphasizes the feedback of failure.
Using failure as a means to gain information to improve will reduce the labor that is necessary over time.
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Coaching
Behind any great person was someone else communicating their shortcomings.
This may sound like a depressing statement, but hear me out.
If a golfer never received criticism or feedback about their swing, they may have made no progress or even worse, regressed.
Now, this isn’t to say to intentionally surround yourself with negative people but to surround yourself with people who will have something constructive to add. Having someone who has been through what you are going through is a valuable resource of information.
Think of all the former athletes turned coaches! Who better to advise a player on what to do than someone who has been through, witnessed, succeeded, and failed in that same profession?
Feedback
There is no better feedback than failing.
One of the easiest ways to find out if something didn’t work is to fail. In fact, the way that many people land on what actually does work is to fail multiple times.
I’ll give you an example.
You are a new baker and you decide to bake cookies for your grandma. You bake the cookies for the first time, give them to her to try and she loves them. You think that you are a 5-star baker based on this response.
You decide that you are going to bake more cookies for your grandma and this time she hates them.
You want to please your grandma so you try another batch, but make a slight change to see if you receive a different response. She is still not pleased, so your repeat the process of making slight changes until you create a cookie that she loves.
Had you not gone through the effort, you would never know what your grandma likes in a cookie.
Failing at something is a full stop, go back and reevaluate
Failing is a surefire way to know that what you did, did not work. Sometimes when you avoid failure or even succeed at something you don’t understand how you accomplished it. This is why feedback of failure is so important.
Usually, people who succeed want to know how to replicate their success for themselves or know it to share with others. This is how people build a strategy.
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How can we change our thoughts about failure?
1. Assess your beliefs about failure
Taking the time to learn where your beliefs originated can give you information on the validity of these beliefs. You may be taking on unnecessary stress.
If your beliefs about yourself and failure come from outside people, I encourage you to question their opinion.
If you need a little inspiration to dig deep, you can ask yourself these three questions:
- Where did you get your beliefs about failure
- Is failure a determining factor of success?
- Has your thoughts about failure helped or hindered you?
Getting to the bottom of your thoughts about failure will give you the chance to change your mindset.
Failure over time can change in connotation and it does not need to be a defining characteristic of your existence as a human being.
2. Overcome limiting beliefs
What we believe about our capability to succeed is the single most important factor in shaping our success.
When you don’t believe that you can accomplish something, you work differently than you would if you knew that you could accomplish the thing.
Your self-belief impacts your output, effort, and strategy, which all affect your success.
The mental aspect of failure and the feedback of failure cannot be avoided. In other words, you have to put in the work.
To give yourself a chance at creating a different life for yourself and those you care about you have to be willing to try something different and learn to manage failure.
When you view failure as nothing but feedback, you open yourself up to new opportunities. These opportunities can put you in rooms that you would have never dreamed of because you didn’t let fear or failure stop you.
3. Reconstruct Our Beliefs About Failure
When you focus on failure as a form of feedback, your brain starts to associate failure with progress.
When you try a new skill, you are supposed to fail.
If you do not automatically fail, you may have an advantage, but that would not be the norm for a majority of people.
I don’t know where this expectation to succeed immediately came from, but it is not at all realistic.
Social media may be a culprit by glamorizing the abnormal, but remember that normal people with normal abilities do exist.
Failure can be associated with things such as shame, humiliation, and discouragement. I think that these things all make failure a part of one’s identity.
When you focus on the feedback of failure, you understand that it is a part of the process at the beginning and you will do it less as you gain more experience.
Action
Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy. ~ Dale Carnegie
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Learn a New Skill
One way to combat your feelings of inadequacy and your fear of failure is to try something new. A failure would be someone who does not try at all due to fear.
You would already be a step ahead due to the fact that you tried.
A few skills that you might consider beginning with are:
- Drawing – Beginner Drawing Kit
- Learning a new language – Language Learning Audiobook
- Communicating – Communication Skills Training
- Video Editing – Youtube Videos
- Coding – Middle School Coding
- Copywriting – Copywriting Secrets Book
These are all skills that can help you in multiple areas and give you opportunities in different spaces.
Switching jobs may not be your goal, but having the skill set to increase your value to a company can never hurt.
Set a Challenging Goal
The first step to getting different results is to determine where you want to be. or at least the person you want to be while your work towards getting those results.
The goal does not need to be difficult, but it should require effort on your end.
Some examples of goals that you could set are:
- Having a no unnecessary spending month.
- Waking up at 6 am for a month.
- Calling your mother every weekday for a month
- Making your bed every day for a month
- Drinking 2 glasses of water a day for a month
All of these goals are doable and they require intentional effort.
By setting these goals, you set yourself up to improve and receive the feedback of failure if you fail to complete them.
This can be the catalyst to encourage you to act differently so that you can get different results.
Conclusion
Failure is not inherently good or bad, it depends on the situation. Receiving the feedback of failure will get you accustomed to the feeling and make it much less scary.
With one less thing to fear, you can free yourself of the burden of expectations and results.
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