This article is all about being happy to be single.
Before you read, there are a few things that I would like to stress. This article is not a slight against those who are not single. This article is not a slight against any single people who want to be in a relationship. This article is for everybody.
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Relationships are probably one of the most lucrative things that companies that businesses commodify and profit from. We’ve all seen the gurus and matchmakers, and the reality shows built around finding someone their ideal partner.
Now, while I am not knocking the hustle, I would love to share why I am happy to be single.
Being single is severely underrated. There are so many benefits to taking your time when it comes to the love game. When you think about it, if you find the right partner, you can be with that person for the rest of your life.
Now, that’s not such a bad thing if it’s what you desire, but that means that there is a finite period of time that you have to be single and have single people’s benefits and challenges.
There is no better opportunity to get to know yourself and discover your wants and plans for your life. It can be extremely easy to lose yourself when you have responsibilities to others.
I encourage you to be bold and thrive while you’re single. It is not the plague. It is the opportunity to live your life on your terms, to put yourself out there, and to embrace uncertainty.
Are you up for the challenge?
This article is all about being happy to be single.
Why I Am Happy To Be Single
Being single is a choice
This is definitely one truth that seems to be overlooked by society. It is assumed that you are single because you have not yet found the right partner, or that you can’t keep a partner, etc. All negative.
I would like to assert that this can be wholly untrue. The circumstances mentioned above may be a part of it, but usually never the full story.
It is totally okay to not be ready for a relationship, not desire to be in a relationship or prioritize your relationship with yourself before entering one with someone else.
There is power in not falling into the trap of rushing into a relationship.
People undervalue themselves far too often and forget that they have choices. Taking the time to discover your value and to build your confidence in being alone would be beneficial to any healthy relationship that you choose to have in the future.
I would choose to be single any day than endure a relationship with the wrong person.
Here are some things that you can declare over your life to give yourself some peace.
- I do not need to rush into anything. If it is limited-time-only, it is probably not for me.
- I can get a partner whenever I get ready.
- My relationship status is the decision of no one but my own. The decisions that I make will protect my peace.
Independence
This is probably my absolute favorite reason of them all. Let me tell you!
If took the route of high school, to university, to a job, chances are that you did not have much independence during those years.
This route doesn’t include all of the other circumstances that can happen to a person to change their trajectory, like marriage, familial issues, children, etc.
If you are like me, the plan was to be single and then adjust if any curveballs were thrown my way.
I can share from the perspective of a single adult with a full-time job that this plan was the absolute best plan for me. I find that it works very well.
It is funny how the illusion of independence changes as you grow older. Moving from grade school to high school, to college, I would have never guessed the relief that I feel right now having been through all of that.
Let me explain, I have never had the authority to make so many decisions before. I find the responsibility that I have for myself is liberating.
I can go where I would like to go, meet who I choose to meet, save what I choose to save, etc. Nothing is due! I finally, finally, have agency over my own life. I can change the world in the way that I intend to change it and make a difference.
Now you may ask, why didn’t you do it before? No one was stopping you?
Truth is, I don’t have a good answer to that, but something shifted in my mind when I realized that it’s all on me now.
No distractions.
This is why I am happy to be single.
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You Can Take Your Time
Although we would like to think that everyone would be able to respect our decisions, this is not always the case. Other people are motivated by their timelines and that can impact their discourse on yours.
Despite this, you still have the ability to decide what works for you. Earlier when I mentioned relationships being forever, that seems to be the intention of many people that get into relationships in the first place. it may or may not work out in the end, but I think that anyone can appreciate not rushing into anything.
When you are able to take your time, you can make more rational and balanced decisions. You don’t let your feelings or the feelings of others put you in an unfavorable situation.
You give yourself the chance to decide what works for you and what you are willing and not willing to accept.
One thing about being happy to be single is that you are well aware of the joy that you had while you were single when you get into a relationship.
If you know that you are a secure individual while being single then you put yourself in a position that allows the relationship to compliment the qualities that you had while you were single.
You Can Be a Different Type of Spontaneous
If you were in any relationship before or even had a somewhat decent relationship with your parents or guardians, you know that there is a limit to spontaneity.
If the person cares for your well-being, the limits may be safety-related, but they are still limits nonetheless.
When you are single, you can enjoy the benefits of living the life that you choose to live. You have no obligation to a partner to report your whereabouts or to discuss your decisions beforehand.
You can do this already if you choose, but it is not obligatory.
A reason that you can be happy to be single is that you can do the things that you have never thought to do.
If you want to take a trip or explore your city, you do not need to worry about coordinating schedules. You can come and go as you please and have the experience that you wanted to have.
Things for those who are happy to be single
If you are looking for things to encourage you on your journey to being happy to be single, you are in the right place!
- Journal – You can document your journey here! There may be ups and downs, but building gratitude for the place that you are in right now will improve your perspective. You will have this to look back on if/when you do get into a healthy and successful relationship and remember the person that you were that helped you get to where you aspire to be.
- Yoga Mat – Yoga can be a great form of self-care and can help you prioritize the time that you spend on yourself and listen to your body’s needs. While you have the time to work on this for yourself, it can be a great thing to include on your journey to loving your single self.
- Goal Notepad – You can use this to document where you want to be during this time that you are focusing on yourself.
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Things to do for those who are happy to be single
- MeetUp – You can use this website to meet and do activities with people in your area. This is a great way to build community and strengthen your network.
- Volunteering – If you want to make a difference in the lives of others, you can dedicate your time.
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